It all depends

Mom and Carla opt for the rarely accidental swing, Lake Sinclair GA,  May 2003

Mom and Carla opt for the rarely accidental swing, Lake Sinclair GA, May 2003

“Now then, Pooh,” said Christopher Robin, “where’s your boat?”
“I ought to say,” explained Pooh as they walked down to the shore of the island, “that it isn’t just an ordinary sort of boat. Sometimes it’s a Boat, and sometimes it’s more of an Accident. It all depends.”
“Depends on what?”
“On whether I’m on the top of it or underneath it.”  
―   A.A. Milne    

I just love Pooh.  When I read this quote, it made me smile.  Many things in my life, from computers to cars to cooking, are sometimes more of an Accident.  It all depends.

On this busy Monday, I wish you a day that’s relatively free of such Accidents.  But if you do have one (or even a few), I hope they are mild enough to remind you of Pooh’s philosophical sense of humor, so you don’t give up on whatever Boat of yours may have capsized today.  Tomorrow it may be a Boat again, and you may be on the top of it.  It all depends!


  1. About 75 f behind the swinging ladies are Azaleas planted by Jeff; and equidistant between these two points, Austin is buried. Sherry and I plan to drive down tomorrow and install new, custom-made windows, facing the lake.

    • Eric, I am so happy to know Austin is buried at the Nocking Point! I had supposed he would be buried in the mountains near your home, but maybe he loved TNP as much as Pasha loved York County. Good luck with the windows – the view is worthy of the best!

  2. merry

    Julia, good morning.. In life, things are what they are, depending on the day and how we see them.
    Praying, you, Jeff and Matt are having a good day. And Jeff is feeling better.

    • Thank you, Merry; I do think that Jeff is feeling a bit better. I’ve been doing heavy housework all day (scrubbing tile floors and grout, wiping down baseboards, vacuuming nooks and crannies, all those things that tend to be overlooked) and I’ve always thought such work is therapeutic, at least for me, so I do feel a bit better. We really appreciate your prayers and presence here! Blessings to you too!

  3. Kathy

    I adore Pooh too, although my personality more resembles Eyeore. I also love Paddington..he’s such a hopeful bear! I think that’s what I love about your blog, Julia, you give me my much needed dose of hopefulness every morning 🙂

    • Thanks Kathy, there is a lot of wisdom in these “children’s” tales. Jeff is more of the Eeyore in our family. I’m a sort of combination of Pooh, Piglet, Tigger and Owl. But probably I identify most with Pooh, especially his love of “a little something sweet” and his frequent good-natured confusion. “It muddles me rather” is something I could say several times a day! I’m so happy you enjoy the blog! I appreciate your letting me know.

  4. Carolyn

    I love Pooh, enjoyed reading the books to the kids. Grady will love him too. I do hope that today will be an accident free day. Staying home until early evening and then off to David’s for another birthday party. This one is for Zach, he turned 13 this past Friday. Last night I made him a pound cake, he is not an icing person. He loves my cake and when he asked ,I couldn’t say no. You will love baking things with Grady. I hope that Jeff is still feeling better and getting the rest he needs. You all have a wonderful day and let it be accident free. Hugs and love to all.

    • Thanks Carolyn, I love hearing about your family. Lots of birthdays = lots of blessings! Good for Zach; icing is my favorite part of the cake and I always try to go for one of those big gooey icing roses, or a corner piece with lots of icing trim, but Zach is much better off preferring pound cake. Jeff has had a rough week but today he seems a bit better, at least in mood. We are trying to prioritize sleep and rest. For him that’s much harder than for me, except when it comes to bedtime when I’m such a night owl. Re: accident free: so far, so good! Take care of yourself! Love to you and Terry and all your family.

  5. MaryAnn

    In 1987, I was involved in organizing the Fairfield-Suisun Drug Advisory Committee. We did many community outreach events to raise awareness. At one of our seminars, the speaker talked about a book that shows the personalities of the Pooh characters. Pooh being the one to emulate due to his positive attitude. She was teaching ways to help kids rise above the sadness that often leads to addictions. As you can see, I, too, love Pooh and the joy he shares. I must remember to use “Poohisms” when the Boat has a mishap. “Oh, Bother!”
    Great post! Thanks…

    • Thanks, Mary Ann! The thing I love so much about Pooh is that he fumbles and bumbles quite a lot, but never holds his own failures against himself. He’s full of sympathy for everyone, including himself! And he’s always up for an adventure – or a snack! What a fun companion. I think a lot of people might overlook the fact that sadness often more to do with drug abuse, than seeking “highs” for no reason other than the thrill of it. Many of the people I have known who struggle with various addictions are also struggling with feelings of inadequacy, shame, grief, trauma or other unresolved issues – it sounds cliché but in real live it’s never trite, it’s heartbreaking. I’m glad the organizers of your event had the insight to realize that literature is one of the most effective ways of dealing with anguish — and that a lot of the best literature has been labeled “children’s literature.” When I was working as a Youth Services Librarian, I would always tell people that the “E” on the spine of picture books was not for “Easy” – it was for “Everybody.” I heard that in library school and never forgot it. I’m happy you liked today’s post! 🙂

      • MaryAnn

        You were in my thoughts a great deal yesterday.; as I was doing the mitered corners on one of the quilts I make for children’s homes & the pregnancy center. The 1st corner gave me trouble, so I decided to not fight the other 3 & think Pooh thoughts!
        When I returned to the job, the corners went together quickly. I am giving you & Pooh the credit!
        You are correct about addictions.

        • Mary Ann, Pooh and I appreciate the honor (although you did the work) and Pooh wants you to reward yourself with a bit of Hunny. 🙂

  6. Sheila

    Julia, you’ve had me humming “Winnie the Pooh, Winnie the Pooh” all day! I have refrigerator magnets of Tigger and Eyeore from Ashley and Stephanie’s childhood so they’re 40+ years old. Granddaughter Grayson,almost 20 now, had a Winnie the Pooh birthday party when she was 1 year old. I love the photo, your words and the comments. To think, Eric’s dog, Austin, now rests in that setting. Back in Garden City, Sheila

    • Hi Sheila, I’m glad to know you are friends with Pooh and his chums. Those stories never grow old, which means they have much the same effect on us! Do the years fly by as quickly between 1 and 20 for a grandchild as they do for a child? That is a really lovely setting for Austin to be buried. I’m sure he had many happy hours at the lake. Dogs seem to enjoy such things even more than people do. And a quiet spot by the peace of the lake is fitting for Austin, who had a very sedate and dignified demeanor. Hope you have a good week back home! Imagine — leaving vacation and coming home to the seashore! 🙂

      • Sheila

        Julia, the years DO go way too fast and it seems like,without realizing it,they get really busy and GROW UP. My six grandchildren (Grayson, Hewitt, Emmaleigh, Brighton, Alston, and Autumn) all live in the area….so far. When I picked Emmaleigh up at high school yesterday, I could only wonder, “Where have the years gone?” I know you’ll enjoy baby Grady every chance you get! Mimi… haha!

        • Thanks Sheila, I had a feeling that might be the case. We hope to see Grady this weekend! Maybe I’ll have some new photos to post. Thanks for sharing our journey!

  7. I do love Winnie The Pooh too. For some reason, so much more than when I was a kid. Seems like I finally get it 😀 Metaphorically, I capsize often but as Pooh points out, luckily things tend to upright soon enough. One of my favourite Milne quotes is, “we’ll be friends forever, won’t we?” asks Piglet. “Even longer”, replied Pooh.

    • Yes, I love that quote too! Actually I have found that adults tend to be much crazier about Pooh than the children are. The books are quite sophisticated in their own way, and appeal to adults and children on slightly different levels, as the best always do. (Sesame Street, Maurice Sendak, Arnold Lobel and other favorites have some of that same subtle humor.)


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